📚 The Book in 3 Bullets

• Not giving a fuck doesn't mean being indifferent; it means being comfortable with being different.

• There is nothing to be afraid of. We all die, and we're fortunate enough to experience life.

• No matter the cards you're dealt with in life, they're still your responsibility even if they're not your fault.

👤 How the Book Changed Me

• This book has allowed me to let go of trivial problems and save my fucks for things truly worth giving a fuck. It's also opened my eyes to my own mortality. We all eventually die, so start taking more risks and giving less fucks.

✍️ My Top Quotes

• Wanting a positive experience is a negative experience; accepting a negative experience is a positive experience.

• The key to a good life is not giving a fuck about more; it's giving a fuck about less, giving a fuck about only what is true and immediate and important.

• Don't just say fuck it to everything in life, rather reserve your fucks for only what truly matters. Family. Friends. Purpose.

📖 Summary & Notes

• The feedback loop from hell cure: “I feel like shit, but who gives a fuck?”

• Don’t feel bad about feeling sad.

• Being open with your insecurities will make you more confident and charismatic.

Subtlety 1: not giving a fuck does not mean being indifferent; it means being comfortable with being different.

Subtlety 2: to not give a fuck about adversity, you must first give a fuck about something more important than adversity.

Subtlety 3: whether you realize it or not, you are always choosing what to give a fuck about.

• If everyone was extraordinary, then by definition no one would be extraordinary.

• Most people are average or below average at most things, but the media is obsessed with the 99.999 percentile.

• Extraordinary people think they are average and are obsessed with improving because they know they’re not that good.

• The more you embrace being uncertain and not knowing, the more comfortable you will feel in knowing what you don’t know.

• You are not special so don’t treat your problems like they’re special and no one else has the same things going on.

• Your self-worth isn’t determined by people around you, but instead by your own behaviors and happiness.

How To Be Less Certain

Ask yourself:

1. “What if I’m wrong?”

2. “What would it mean if I were wrong?”

3. “Would being wrong create a better or worse problem than my current problem, for both myself and others?”

Don’t avoid failure:

• If you want to be successful, you have to be willing to fail.

• Pain is part of the process.

• Just shut up and do it (walk up and talk to that stranger, tell them what you want, and don’t be afraid to be embarrassed).

• Action -> inspiration ->motivation

• There is no reason not to do something because we all eventually die.

• Don’t avoid embarrassment or shame because it’s all just a bunch of nothing anyway because we all die.

• Give a fuck about something more than your insecurities and baggage.

• “What will be my legacy on the earth?” This is the most important aspect of your life and will go on forever.

• There is nothing to be afraid of. We all die, and we’re all fortunate enough to experience life.

• Our struggles determine our success.